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Pleasing the Hard to Please Woman in Bed
Guys, it isn't difficult to really please your woman in bed and give her great pleasure. If you doubt that, check it out here. If you're in a dilemma about what to do with your woman to give her orgasms, follow these simple tips.
They'll help you understand what your woman wants and what you must do when pleasing a woman so that you really satisfy her – which, of course, means bring her to orgasm.
Treat it with as much care as you would a priceless masterpiece. And if you're experiencing some difficulty pleasing her in bed, then it may be time to identify what's causing your difficulty and why it's such a challenge to please her.
To start with you must control your desire to enter her and thrust away till you reach orgasm. That may or may not take you a lot of control, depending on how sophisticated you are as a lover, but I can assure you that the outcome will be more than worth it in terms of the delight and satisfaction that you get.
So here are our simple tips as you work your way through the conundrum of femininity that can lead you to euphoric pleasure – and her too.
1 Remember that women are romantic creatures.
And generally speaking, that means porn isn't attractive to them. And also gross male behavior isn't attractive. Sure, a woman might want her hair pulled or her ass slapped, but there is a delicate and sensitive way of finding out before you do it.
And don't walk into the room fondling your erect cock! Try a simple display of affection first! Kissing, holding and caressing go down well, particularly if there is no sexual intention in your actions. Being affectionate doesn't have to lead to sex. In fact, for a woman, being affectionate makes her think that you want more than sex – you want a relationship with the whole woman. And to her that means romance and love, which oddly enough will open up her body to you as well.
2 While it might be nice for you to believe that a woman can be turned on like a machine, the truth of the matter is you can't just jump on her and ride her like a bicycle.
And that's especially true today, in a world where she has so much on her mind – in fact just as you do, but she probably isn't as good at mentally putting things down and focusing on sex with you.
At least, not compared to how you can focus on sex with her. When she's thinking about the kids and dinner and the housework and her jobs, she's going to need to time to decompress before she wants pleasuring. Time is of the essence when it comes to female sexual pleasure – so just remember time equals foreplay.
3 Foreplay doesn't have to be boring.
In fact it can be a source of great pleasure in its own right. For example, you might find that a woman is delighted to pleasure you by giving you oral, either as a beautiful way of arousing you, or as a pleasurable technique in its own right.
But if she's can do this, she's entitled to expect certain things from you – good hygiene being high on the list, and sensitivity being another. This means not pushing her head down on your erect member, just because it feels good to you.
In fact, the golden rule here is to be considerate and gentle. If things get a bit more aroused and a bit more edgy, then fine but don't push it. For a woman, being in bed with a man is a more pleasurable experience when he sensitive to her needs.
4 On the subject of consideration, remember the vagina is not as tough as you might think.
Hang nails, jagged fingernails, and hairy face rasping on it are not attractive to a woman. What she wants is a well-groomed man sweet breath and nice smelling balls (and penis for that matter too).
5 You've heard it all before, but it's worth repeating again: kiss, lick, and stroke her – all over the body – and then do it again.
And only when she's beginning to look like she's starting to lubricate and starting to get aroused does she want you to head for her vulva, clitoris or vagina.
Think of giving her a massage. For a woman, having a man diving straight in her vagina before she's aroused can be really uncomfortable. So think of gentle strokes up and down her body, perhaps with oil - like a massage. See which parts of her body respond, and above all don't treat like the woman in the last porn movie you were watching – unless she's consented to that.
6 A woman is often not sure about what pleases her.
And that's not only from one session of sex to the next, but it can be within the same session of sex.
One good way to find out is to help her explore her own body for pleasure so that you and she both have an idea of what's going to take to bring her to orgasm.
If she's shy and retiring, and finds difficulty in sharing this with her, then you can gently ask her as you're making love. The idea is to find what excites her most, and then to pleasure her in the way that she appreciates most. Keep in mind that your consideration for her well-being will be repaid many times over in her desire to show love and appreciation to you, and make your happiness complete.
7 And in the context of finding out what brings a woman pleasure, remember that the clitoris isn't the only part of a woman's body that is distinctly pleasurable.
A woman has erogenous zones all over body – just as you do, in fact. That could be her neck, the small of her back, buttocks, and obviously her lips and mouth and breasts.
You need to find out which of these are going to put h your woman into a place of arousal by delicately exploring them and seeing how she responds.
Don't overlook her G spot either. It is a pleasure point, and in some women stroking it can produce intense orgasms. If your penis curves up, then you want to make love in the man on top position so that the curve of your penis will massage the G spot (which is on the upper wall of her vagina she lies in the back).
If your penis curve downwards, then you might want to make love in the rear entry position so that your penis is more likely to hit her G spot. Whatever position you choose, the idea is to maximize the chance of hitting her G spot and giving a whole-body orgasm.
8 One of the perennial topics, even now, in this so-called enlightened age is about oral pleasure.
Some couples absolutely love oral pleasure, but some people only do it because they want to please their partner.
If your woman is having difficulty accepting the idea, try and find out what's turning her off it. Perhaps an experience in the past has upset her, or maybe she's not had an experience of oral pleasure in line with her standards or expectations.
Don't forget that open and honest communication during sex is one of the best ways to achieve mutual pleasure. It's also a good thing to do anyway, because it brings you closer together and makes you feel more intimate.
So try and be as open and honest as you can with each other, so that she can learn the art of fellatio and you can perfect the art of cunnilingus. That way you both have the maximum chance of bringing each other to pleasure.
These few simple ideas and principles will help you to ensure that a hard to please woman can find real pleasure with you. And if you spend time focused on pleasing her, she will most definitely do the same for you - many times over.
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