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Penis Problems:  My penis is too large

It's actually extremely unlikely that your penis is too large for sex, and it's hard to see how it could be too large for masturbation, so presumably what you mean is that you are unsatisfied with the size of your penis or that it is bigger than average and this is giving rise to a few practical difficulties such as how you insert it into your partner without causing her discomfort, or that it is so big it is an embarrassment to you.

There are, in fact, more penises of this size around than you might think. We're talking around eight - nine inches plus here, though of course some men have a short thick erection that can be equally problematical; in both cases, problems around sex are likely to arise if a man's partner has any fear of anxiety about penetration, or if she doesn't produce enough natural lube from her vagina to smooth the way.

The simplest answer is to use artificial lube - Probe or Astroglide are both excellent. They can be applied to a woman's vulva as part of foreplay, and then added liberally to the outside of your condom or penis before penetration. (Don't use oil based lube if are putting a condom over your penis.) If a woman is nervous about penetration, her vaginal muscles may close up a bit when you are getting near the moment of penetration, so it's important to take things slowly and lovingly, and to take the time to reassure her and make sure she's comfortable with what's happening.

If your penis really is so big that she can't take it without discomfort, then the first possibility is that she isn't aroused enough. Once a woman is aroused and sexually excited, she'll be able to accommodate a big penis in her vagina without discomfort. Secondly, she may actually have a smaller than average vagina, though this is unlikely, since most vaginas are pretty much the same size. In either case another solution is to use sex positions where she can control the depth of penetration - like woman on top - or ones where you can exercise some restraint as you thrust - like rear entry. 

A good sexual position for a couple if you're a man with a large penis is to start with you, the man, lying on the bed, face upwards, with your partner on top of you, also face upwards. In other words, she lies on you, her back on your chest. You can then insert your penis into her vagina between her legs. Much of your penile shaft will remain between her thighs as you thrust, since only shallow penetration is possible in this position, but the closeness of the contact of your penis and her thighs makes it satisfying for you even if you only have the top part of your penile shaft inside her.

There's a great deal of advice for men in this tricky situation here. 

By the way, it's possible for a woman to get sexually excited at the thought of a large penis, but it may be less exciting for her when its owner is trying to get it into her vagina.

If you want a view of some penises so large that they are just abnormal, see Gunnerworld. After all, what are you going to do if your erect penis is 12 inches long, except make a career of it on the internet?