All About The Penis

Q: I am uncircumcised, with a long foreskin that normally covers my the whole of my penis head (glans) and retracts normally during masturbation. But I've never had my hand on the actual penis-head when I masturbate, because it is so, so sensitive, I can't bear to have it touched. This was alright as long as I was on my own, but now I am in a relationship and we've started to have sex. I read that when you use a condom, you have to pull back your foreskin, but when I do, my penis is so sensitive I either come in about two seconds or I can't bear the pressure when I'm going in and out of her. We even tried sex with my penis naked - she's now on the pill - and that was OK while I was inside her, but after I came, even the slightest movement she made before I took my penis out of her was almost painful. Please help - just about the only thing we can do at the moment is gentle oral sex, with her sucking my penis.

A: Well, I doubt it's any comfort, but you aren't alone. Many men find that after they ejaculate their penis is extremely sensitive and they can't bear to have it touched. And often men who start masturbating or having sex with their glans exposed, after a lifetime of having it covered by a foreskin, find that they are over-sensitive. 

The usual answer that most people give to this question is, "Don't worry, your penis will get less sensitive as time goes by." However, though that may be true, it hardly helps you right now. I'm also wondering why you were OK when you had sex without a condom as long as you were inside her, but you couldn't use a condom comfortably. If the friction of your glans on the condom is too great, you might try adding some artificial lubricant to the inside of the condom - something like Probe or Astroglide, which you can get at the chemist or over the internet. This might reduce the friction between your penis and the condom and make it more comfortable for you.