We do not stop to consider half frequently enough the
miracles of biological organization and function that the human body
Every system is a miracle of planning in itself, and
the sexual system is among the most miraculous of all.
Nothing seems to have been overlooked, even down to
the smallest detail, such as the discomfort and pain and the difficulty that
could arise if a dry penis were to be put into an equally dry vagina.
I can accept the reasonableness of the erectile
mechanism of the penis – how inconvenient in our upright stance it would be,
to have a permanent erection – the apparent, yet entirely justified,
lavishness of the semen supply, and the caution which provided two testicles
and two ovaries, should one should fail, and I can appreciate fully the
sword-sheath arrangement of the penis and vagina.
But I am always awed by the thoroughness that provided
both the penis and vagina with lubrication systems.
The woman's lubrication system, as one might expect,
is more comprehensive than the man's.
First of all, as soon as the, woman becomes sexually
aroused, the walls of the vagina begin to excrete a lubricating fluid. This
alone should be sufficient to allow comfortable insertion of the penis.
But as though the inventor knew that men and women
would engage in loveplay, and that this loveplay would include manual
stimulation of the labia, clitoris, vulva and vagina entrance, these have also
been supplied with separate lubrication, and not with one system, but two.
There are Skene's glands which lie just inside and to
the back of the woman's urethra, and Bartholin's glands which are situated one
on each side of the vagina-entrance, at the base of the inner sex-lips.
Both come into action when the woman becomes sexually
aroused. This manifests as extensive vaginal lubrication, which can be the
first sign of increasing arousal in a woman. It's a law of attraction - when a
woman and man are in a sexual situation, their mutual attraction and arousal
is signified by the signs of female lubrication and erection.
However, until Masters and Johnson demonstrated
otherwise, it was thought that Bartholin's glands produced the bulk of the
volume of female lubrication.
Johnson found, however, that they produce only one or two drops, and that
most of the woman's lubricating fluid comes from the vagina walls. They did
not refer to Skene's glands at all.
The man's lubrication system also consists of two sets
One set is known as Cowper's glands, and is situated
at the base of that section of the urethra that runs through the penis, near
to the root of the penis, inside the body. They have another function, besides
lubricating the penis-head.
The fluid they produce, which is transparent and
slippery, is alkaline, and reduces the acidity natural to the urethra, which
would, if it were not neutralized by Cowper's gland fluid, kill off many of
the sperm before they ever left the penis.
There is also a second set of glands, Littre's glands,
which are located along the urethra, and these are also thought to produce
Now, with this question of lubrication, as in all
other departments of sexual functioning, no two individuals produce the same
amounts of lubricating fluids, not only as a regular matter of course, but
from one occasion to the next.
Some women's vaginas produce so much fluid that it
drips out of them in amounts that can be seen, closely resembling the
production of male semen. Other women produce amounts that are more than
adequate, but that can be felt rather than seen. Even so, again, the law of
attraction applies - women become aroused and lubricate. Men become aroused
and they get hard.
Similarly, some men produce lubricating fluid in such
quantities that you might think they were ejaculating, except that the
lubricating fluid is clear, while semen is cloudy. Others, on the other hand,
produce only a few inconspicuous drops.
While most women begin to produce vaginal lubricating
fluid and fluid from Bartholin's glands as soon as the clitoris becomes erect,
others do not begin to lubricate until they are approaching the
Similarly, though some men begin to produce Cowper's
gland fluid from the first moment of arousal, others, on the other hand, do
not begin to produce any lubricating fluid until a second or two before
Since these men are not aware of releasing lubricating
fluid at all, they come to the conclusion that they do not.
If neither the woman nor the man produces lubricating
fluid during foreplay, it can lead to feelings of failure or inadequacy. They
have read in some books that they should, and if they do not respond according
to the book, they imagine they have something wrong with them, and get uptight
But of course great sex is not just about the physical
side of things. It's also about the mental side. And by using a few simple
techniques you can manifest great sex in both mind and body. For some insight
into those techniques you can see how the physiology of arousal plays out
between two people who are
attracted to each other.