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Forty Mistakes Men Make In Bed With A Woman

If you thought the path to sexual bliss was simple, look at this list of mistakes made by men when they're having sex. If any of them are familiar, you need to sharpen up on your bedroom etiquette!

1) Going straight for her vulva, clitoris or breasts

A woman is probably going to be irritated than sexually excited when a man goes for her breasts and vulva after a bit of kissing. Be sensitive and touch her sexual areas only when she's already aroused. If you go for her breasts when you get her into bed and twiddle her nipples like you're tuning a radio receiver, you're not going to get a very good reception.

2) Not knowing how to kiss like a romantic

Passionate kissing is an art form which eases you both into the main event of sex and cultivates intimacy. Learn how to kiss your partner, and do it well. That doesn't include sticking your tongue between her teeth and wiggling it around madly.

3) Not respecting her erogenous zones

Men like to have a firm touch applied to their dick. But if you approach her clitoris with as much force as you apply to your penis when you're treating Mr. Happy to a quick morning massage, she's likely to howl with pain - and then she'll probably kick you out of bed. The clitoris has twice as many nerves as the penis, so it's very sensitive. Treat it accordingly.

4) Not stroking her body

A woman's biggest sex organ is her mind. The next biggest is her skin. If you were thinking of anything else, think again. For a woman, sex is all about making connection. And that includes skin to skin connection. An hour spent massaging her will arouse her to her need for sex and almost certainly guarantee she has an orgasm one way or another. So ensure you focus on putting your sexual energy into your fingers while you massage her. That means not thinking distractedly about the football game while you're oiling her up.

5) Locking onto her nipples like a teething child

Tempting though it may be to suck on her breasts, she's not going to want you reminding her of the last time a teething child bit into her nipple. Kiss all around her breasts and gently work towards her nipple, gently licking it with your tongue and maybe sucking it between your lips when she's really excited. If she likes what you're doing, you'll know by her moans of pleasure.

6) Biting or blowing on her earlobe because you think it's sexy

Very few women seem to find this exciting. Your time would be better spent searching out her erogenous zones elsewhere.

7) Leaving a kiss bite on her neck

If you're an adult, this is a no-no. If you need to know why, you're obviously under age and you shouldn't be having sex.

8) Not shaving before sex

Think back to the last time you gave oral sex to a woman with a few days' growth around her vulva. Now imagine that stubble brushing back and forth on your face in the erotic throes of passionate kissing. Enough said?

9) Not washing your pits and bits before you make love

Even if you just have what the French call a tart's wash, make sure you're a smell-free zone when you enter the bedroom. (In case you need to know - the male equivalent is washing your penis, balls, ass, and armpits.)

10) Forgetting that romance starts a long time before sex

No woman wants to be taken for granted. If you touch her lovingly all day, keep shooting her sexy, loving looks, and take the trouble to make sure she knows you're thinking of her, she'll be ready to melt into your arms in the evening. Leaving loving little billets-doux where she'll find them is also a good idea. But make sure they are romantic!

11) Penetrating her before she's ready

Yes, we know you want to get into her. But hold on. Take your time, let events move at their own pace, and only pluck the fruit when you know it's really ripe and dripping juice. While men forget that women like to be entered just as much as men (which is just as well, when you think how much men like to stick things up a woman), she'll only want this when she's aroused enough to enjoy it. So as you finger her clit, surreptitiously check out her cunt. If it's moist and open, she may well be receptive to a finger on her G-spot. Start gently and apply a firmer touch as you go. If you don't know what the G-spot is, go check it out on the internet.

11a) Not using much imagination during sex

The fact is, variety really is the spice of an exciting sex life, so if you don't have enough imagination to come up with new sex positions on your own, try to at least get hold of some information which will allow you to copy some one else's ideas. A good place to start is by asking which might be your best sex positions, and then having some fun trying them to see if they really are!

12) Going straight to her clitoris during cunnilingus or masturbation

Most women just find this annoying - and very uncomfortable too, if the clit isn't aroused and slippery. Work from around her labia, the lips around her vulva, towards the clitoris as she gets more sexually excited. Even then, a subtle touch along the shaft of her clitoris around to the side of the clitoral head may be better for her.

3) Stopping when she wants you to keep going at all costs

If she's nearing orgasm she certainly won't want you to stop whatever you're doing, whether it's with your penis, your fingers or your tongue. Bearing in mind how hard on the tongue cunnilingus can be, we suggest you make sure your fingers are ready to take over if you get a bad case of cramp. If she's not saying much, she may be lying there silent because she's got lost in her excitement, not because you're licking ineffectively at her clit. But then again, how would you know? She may be so excited by what you're doing that she shows it by pressing her vulva more firmly against your mouth, in which case carry on with your stimulation. If she gives off an aura that she'd rather be cooking the dinner, you need to think of something else. Like asking her what she wants, maybe?

14) Undressing her clumsily

Listen up guys: you don't have to struggle with those zips while you kiss her. Indeed, she might well appreciate it more if you don't even try. Nothing about an underwear fumble is funny, when it interrupts the romance. Let her take off anything you don't know about and when you do help, make it look like you're delicately removing her garments rather than pulling at her clothes like you can't wait to fuck her - even if you that's true.

15) Looking like a clown in the bedroom

Nothing is more comical to a woman than a man wearing his underpants and socks. Why this should be so remains a mystery, since it seems so natural to a man to undress like that. However, if you don't want her to laugh, take off your socks first.

16) Expecting her to shave for you

Yes, we know you like the smooth look around her vulva, but if she's not into shaving, don't put pressure on her to smooth it out for you. There are few things less comfortable than itchy stubble in the groin. If you want to see more and have easier access to her pussy, ask her to trim the hair.

17) Entering her without asking her first

Such a bizarre idea! And yet so nice - occasionally, at least - to be romantic and ask "May I enter you?" This can be a very exciting and loving way to go if you're looking deep into her eyes. Needless to say, that's most likely to happen in the missionary, which, by the way, remains everyone's most popular position for sex. And then again, there are times when you can just sense the moment for penetration - but don't let your judgment be affected by your desire to fuck here. Yes, we know the urge is hard to resist. But be a man - and make sure she's ready first.

18) Probing around her vagina with your penis if you can't get in

This will turn her off at once - guaranteed. If you can't find the way in (it happens) on your own, tell her what's going on and ask her to guide your penis in. There's no shame in that, but acting like a clown can ruin sex for you both. And anyway, think how much time you'll save if she just puts it in for you.

19) Pumping away without regard for her comfort

Now you're in! Hurrah! But whatcha gonna do next? Pump away heartily till you ejaculate? Bad idea.....surely you'll want to show some consideration for her pleasure? So make sure you start with slow and shallow thrusts. When you make love, she'll like it best if you act masculine and strong: be confident, know what you're doing, be thoughtful and gentle at first, and work up to more powerful thrusts if she starts moaning with pleasure (as in "oh, yes, fuck me harder!").

20) Expecting her to present her bottom to you when you want rear entry sex

It's a male thing, the desire for rear entry sex. Mostly. Then again, there will be times when the mood takes her and she just wants the naughty, raunchy feeling of rear entry sex. In between, you might get it on your birthday, if you're lucky. And if you do persuade her to get her ass in the air, don't make the mistake of slapping her rump like you're spurring her on to buck harder and faster.

21) Getting carried away when you have a big penis

If you happen to have a large member, restrain yourself as you thrust, or you might hear her shriek as you hit her cervix. This will not, in all likelihood, be a shriek of delight. It may, however, signal the end of your pleasure for now.

22) Premature ejaculation is not the mark of a good lover

Sadly few men have the staying power that allows them to really satisfy a woman who enjoys vaginal intercourse and thrusting against her G-spot. You can improve your staying-power with self help exercises, but if you just can't be bothered, at least have the consideration to keep going for at least long enough to give her some satisfaction. Do some research on Google about how you might find a good treatment for premature ejaculation and see what I mean.

23) Not coming at all - delayed ejaculation

Delayed ejaculation is not a good thing. She won't see it as any kind of blessing, either, when her cunt is bone dry, she's bored out of her mind and you still aren't going to come. So if you are one of the ten percent of men who have trouble ejaculating, go see a sexual therapist! The quicker you get treated, the sooner she'll be able to enjoy sex with you and stop having plenty of time to think about her shopping list.

24) Losing your hard-on when you put the condom on

If you're one of the many men who find that Mr Happy goes to sleep when the condom makes an appearance, it's back to Google for you. Try a search on "losing erection when putting on a condom" and see if you can find a solutions.

25) Not going down on her when she wants oral pleasure

Most men like the idea of going down on a woman, so any doubts must be about her smell or taste. If she's a bit ripe, then suggest a shower as part of foreplay. If all you're interested in is getting her to suck your cock and you won't reciprocate, reading these tips isn't going to help you much anyway.

26) Failing to ensure her pleasure

By the way, you should make sure that your woman has an orgasm before you do. She doesn't want to lie awake next to you as you slumber gently after a big orgasm while she's still unsatisfied. We men lose interest in fucking once we've come - so make sure she comes through oral sex or manual stimulation before you enter her. That way, she gets to have an orgasm, and you can enjoy her vagina when it's aroused and tumescent after she's come. Don't just enter her, thrust and ejaculate before turning over and going to sleep. How boorish can you be?

27) Trying to force her head towards your cock so she gives you fellatio is not a hint about what you want, it's an act of rape

However you see it, it ain't right. She decides if she wants to give you fellatio, not you. Forcing her head towards your penis is as bad as forcing your penis towards her vagina when she says "no". If she doesn't seem to be interested and you'd like a bit of oral pleasure, just say to her: Could you just do this for me...." And when she is giving you pleasure in this way, keep your hands off her head. That way you'll avoid the temptation to grab her and start giving her an involuntary lesson in deep throat technique. However, stroking her hair lovingly is acceptable. Trying to make out you're stroking her hair when all you want to do is move it out of the way so you can see her mouth sucking your penis is not nice.

28) Ejaculating in her mouth without asking her if it's OK

The taste of your ejaculate is very much an acquired taste; unfortunately it's one that few women ever acquire. A great way of solving this problem is for you to have her keep sucking your penis until the last minute, then alert her that you're going to come. She can then move back and finish the job with a lubricated hand. You'll get just as much pleasure, while she's spared the taste of your ejaculate. But "accidentally" forgetting to tell her you're about to ejaculate is not good etiquette. if you want to experiment, try eating some pineapple before a blow job. It's said to improve the flavor of semen.

29) Looking at pornography in front of her

Yes, I know some women like it, but most porn available today is pretty abusive of women, and a lot of it is downright horrible. You can make a choice which side you're on for or against the abuse of women who feature in porn - and a difficult choice it is, since men can so easily shut off a sense of what's right when turned on by hard core porno. The fact that porn turns you on and gives you an exciting orgasm doesn't make it right to use it, though.

If you want to share the erotic thrill of watching people have sex, get hold of some romantic sex movies that will appeal to her emotions as well as her sex drive. (And will spare you the shame of knowing you're part of the problem.)

30) Talking about the size of your penis

She doesn't care about the size of your penis, no matter what you think of it. All she wants is to feel loved and cherished. Remember that 99% of women want a caring lover, not one with a large penis. The other 1% aren't your kind of girl anyway.

31) Telling her what your last lover did for you

Think on this. When she asks you if her butt is too big, do you tell her the truth? Enough said. Your current lover is the most gorgeous, sexy and desirable one you ever met. Your past lover didn't come match up. No way. Even if she doesn't really believe it, that's what she wants to hear.

32) Suggesting her best friend joins you in bed

Threesomes can be very arousing, in fact, but they nearly always end in fights. What usually happens is that surprising jealousy bites someone's butt and then the fireworks start. So be sure, be very sure, you know what you're doing before you try this one.

33) Making her do all the work during sex

Changing sexual is great, but asking her to sit on you every time you have sex seems a bit unfair. Vary your sexual positions, have fun, and do equal work. And don't use one position over and over - that can get very boring.

34) Trying to slip it in her ass by "accident"

There's lots of hard core anal sex porn on the net, but the truth is that very few couples try it and enjoy it. Anal sex is mostly for fantasy. But, if you do want to experiment with a bit of back door action, take it slowly. She's not likely to think it true if you keep saying your dick is poking her anus by accident. And even if she's seen you drive around aimlessly when you're lost, rather than being brave enough to ask for directions, she won't believe you when you say you lost your way en route to her cunt.

As for anal play in general, well, when you're playing with her clitoris, and your finger is in her vagina, you may find that a little anal stimulation goes down well. Use your pinky to press gently at her anus as your other finger plays with her G-spot and your thumb stimulates her clitoris. This may get her more aroused if she's on the verge of orgasm. But if you try this before she's very aroused, you might turn her off completely.

35) Photographing or videoing your lovemaking

This is not a good idea. Instead link your video camera direct to your TV without recording anything so you can see yourself having sex on the TV now, and not view the pictures on the internet in a few years' time.

36) Getting into a sexual rut

Making changes when you make love will keep your sex life fresh and passionate. You'll be astonished just how exciting it is to try different sex positions from time to time. Every sex position puts a different pressure on the penis and vagina, and also lets you view your partner's body in a new way, or lets you see yourself entering your partner's body. Variation is good! Search on Google for "sex positions".

37) Not romancing her

Men put up with romance to get sex. Women love romance because it shows how much their partner loves them. Ah. Truly, different strokes for different folks! The romantic "chase" is deeply rewarding for most men (i.e. nothing feels better than seducing and winning a woman - except having sex with her), and romance is part of that process. If you're able to show her some romance when you're a couple, then you show yourself to be a good lover, a kind companion, and you stand that much greater chance of getting regular, passionate sex.

38) Watching porn makes you a useless lover

No mater how exciting you may find the idea, don't copy the moves you see in porn films. They lack a certain something. Care, that would be.

39) Deafening her by bellowing when you come

This is an easy mistake to make in the man on top position when you're holding her close. Just try to remember not to let the world know when you come. Bury your face in the pillow or something if you're prone to loud vocal ejaculations as well as physical ones.

40) Talking dirty without asking if she likes it

Dirty talks makes sex good! The first time she tells you to f*** her hot wet c*** you'll see what I mean. If that hasn't happened yet, and you'd like it to, suggest she says a few rude thing when you're making love, perhaps by saying them yourself first, and see how it goes. You might be surprised - the quiet ones are often the most uninhibited when they get sexy!

41) Ejaculating on her when she least expects it

Ejaculating between her breasts or on her vulva or between her buttocks can be incredibly exciting, but it's a good idea to ask her first. She may be less impressed with your ejaculation than you are, especially if it involves the need to clean up bits of herself.


42) Not spending some time with her in your arms after sex

If you rise and set about your daily tasks straight after you've made love to her, you're a cad, plain and simple. This is a special time for her and she wants you to show how much you appreciate the gift of her body she just gave you. Spend at least half an hour cuddling after making love, even if you're not going to spend the night with her.

43) Not telling her how beautiful she is and how much you love her

Yes, it's difficult for men to get the "L" word out. But if you mean it, say it. If you don't mean it, find some other way of expressing your appreciation. There are lots of other men who'd be very happy to be where you've just been. If you don't express your appreciation, they might just get in there.

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