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Mistakes Men Make When Having Sex
Things to avoid during sex if you're a man making love to a woman.
1 Avoiding foreplay and making straight for
her erogenous zones
Being able to kiss well - passionately, firmly and tenderly, as appropriate - is the mark of a skilful lover.
3 Forgetting to stroke her and hold her
Much of the enjoyment of sex for a woman is the closeness and sense of intimacy with her partner. Of course, the sexual desire and the orgasm are important as well, but women are certainly not as genital and orgasm centered as men, and the softer side of sex is very important to them.
4 Not treating her nipples or clitoris with respect
While men enjoy sucking and kissing a woman's breasts, too much play with your lips or tongue can be uncomfortable. You'll be able to judge if what you're doing is pleasing her by her reaction. As for her clitoris, just remember it has twice as many nerve endings as your penis. And it's much smaller!
5 Not washing or shaving before sex
Sure, the smell of your penis and her vagina can be sexy and arousing - but when they are a little overripe, shall we say, they become attractive only to those who relish such aromas. And whether or not you shave before sex may depend on how much she likes a red rash across her chin as you thrash back and forth in sexual ecstasy! At the very least, wash under your foreskin and around your anus. The same applies to her of course.
6 Not taking sex slowly and gradually
Don't be in too much of a hurry to penetrate
her, either with your with fingers or your penis. Sex will ultimately be
better for both of you if it involves some tantalizing, teasing play. The best
way to please a woman sexually is to take it slowly and romantically.
Sure, not all sex is romantic and
lovey-dovey: sometimes it's good just to go at it hard and fast. But even then
there's more to sex than just sticking your penis into her and thrusting till
you ejaculate. A sensitive and elegant approach to sex is the mark of a real
man as well as a sensitive lover. So undress her with finesse, and do the same
for yourself. Other suggestions: try not to fart during sex, and don't throw
the condom on the floor when you've finished. That kind of thing tends not to
get you invited back.
If you want her to shave her vulva, ask her nicely. The same goes for any sex play you might want to try. If she says no, accept that, and don't wheedle and whine until she gives in.
9 Not taking the trouble to find out about her G spot and sexual anatomy
You learnt about your penis from the day you first discovered it. But you might not know as much about her clitoris. So take the the time to do some research - on her, if possible - to find out what turns her on, and where you need to stick that finger to get the best response.
10 Being selfish about penetration
Of course your want to stick your fingers and
penis up her pussy - it's natural. But no matter how exciting it is for you,
be gracious about it and do it with elegance and grace. A combination of
masculine confidence and the right degree of firmness (depending on what she
wants) is a sure way to impress a woman. And if you just can't maneuver your
penis into the right place, ask her to help you with her hand! Women hate a
man ineffectually pecking away at the entrance to their vagina without going
in smoothly and cleanly.
11 Sticking to the same sexual positions all the time
We all like making love in new positions from
time to time. Even if she's a bit self-conscious about the size of her butt,
she'll probably enjoy a good hard fuck in the woman on top position from time
to time. So ring the changes, and don't let sex get boring. You don't need
much variation to keep it fresh. Try out some
new sex positions from time to
Watch out for painful contact with her cervix or G spot if you are well-endowed - not all women can take a big penis easily. If your penis is bigger than average, the best way to get deep into her is to use rear entry or woman on top positions and to get her very aroused before you enter her - or use lots of lube.
13 Don't come too quickly
Not having control - at least some degree of control - over your ejaculation is not the mark of a mature lover, especially since you can easily learn this skill. Many more women could reach orgasm during intercourse than actually do so if only their men could keep going longer.
14 Losing your erection when you put the condom on
This is common but unnerving. If it happens to you, get her to put it on you as part of your sex play - perhaps with her mouth. You can see how to do this on The-penis.com.
15 Not making sure sex was good for her
You don't have to
ask her if she reached orgasm, but you can encourage her to give you
feedback on what she's experiencing, receive it graciously, and adapt your
technique to suit her. This may make the difference between her coming and not
When she's giving you oral sex, you may experience an overwhelming urge to thrust into her mouth. If you do, make sure she's not going to gag or choke, and thrust your penis gently.
17 Forcing her head towards your penis when you want oral sex
No woman wants to feel like a cheap sex slave, and forcing her head towards your penis to get oral sex is about as cheap as it comes. Just ask her. If she says no, or is reluctant, then you can explain to her how important oral sex is to you. (See "100 sex tips for women" on this website.)
18 Not making sure she's come before you finish sex
Whether you come quickly or not, she wants an orgasm - at least some of the time. If you can't get her there with vaginal thrusting, then make sure you give her head or you masturbate her until she's satisfied. It's better to do this before you penetrate her and ejaculate, as you're likely to lose interest in sex afterwards.
Just don't. This is the cheapest trick of all.
20 Worrying about the size of your penis
A woman likes a confident man. Worrying about your penis size is about as unconfident as it gets. And it really doesn't matter to her about the size of your penis if you're a good lover. So show some steel, and give her a good time, and you'll do OK, even if you do indeed have a small member.
21 Moaning at her if you don't get anal sex
No matter how attractive the idea is to you, some women just don't like it. If she doesn't want you to stick your penis up her butt, focus on making other kinds of sex better.
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