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All About The Penis How to have great sex - greater sexual pleasureAll About The Penis Home PageThese are some simple techniques which you can use to increase your pleasure when you are having sex with your partner or when you are masturbating. 1 Erection exercisesWhen you have an erection, identify the muscles which make your erection swell as you force more blood into your hard cock, and the muscles which allow you to move your penis from side to side or up and down when it is hard and erect. Strengthening these muscles will greatly improve the hardness and duration of your erections and the amount of pleasure you fell when you ejaculate. As with any muscles, repetition of the contractions is necessary to develop their strength. You can, however, practice contracting and releasing them at any time of day, not just when you are erect, as long as you have identified all the relevant muscles beforehand. You can develop great strength by hanging a small towel on your erect penis and lifting it. As your penile musculature grows in strength, you can use progressively bigger towels. The muscles strengthened by this regime are the pubococcygeus muscle, the thigh muscles, the buttocks, and the abdominal muscles. 2 Repeated ejaculationMen have the capacity to ejaculate much more than they realize: all it takes is a certain amount of practice. Start by masturbating yourself without ejaculating for thirty minutes. This is easy enough to do - you just repeatedly bring yourself to the verge of ejaculation, but as you get there, reduce the pressure and vigor of your hand movements until your level of arousal has dropped sufficiently so that you no longer feel the urge to come. Once you have been masturbating in this way without ejaculating for thirty minutes, speed things up and go all the way and ejaculate as you usually would. However, once you have ejaculated, do not stop masturbating. Continue your masturbatory strokes - this will probably need some good oil based or water based lube. (A blend of base massage oils like almond or grape seed oil with a little dash of lavender and peppermint oils is a pleasing lube for extended masturbation, but water based lubes are good too.) And if you are one of the many men who experience extreme sensitivity on their glans after they have ejaculated, you'll need a certain amount of perseverance and tolerance to discomfort: however, you will find that if you persist, the uncomfortable sensations actually disappear quite rapidly. While you do this, strongly contract your sexual muscles (the ones you've been strengthening in the exercises above!) and pay focused attention to what you are feeling in your penis. You'll find that instead of getting soft, your cock will remain quite hard and get progressively harder as you continue. Use harder hand movements if necessary the second time around, and use vigorous stroking movements around the base of your penis and testicles. After about ten minutes of continuing stimulation, you can - if you wish - once again proceed all the way to ejaculation. 3 Non-ejaculatory masturbationA development of the second technique described above is to enjoy orgasm but without any ejaculation taking place. (This technique, like the other two techniques summarized above, is described by Alan P Brauer and Donna J Brauer in their book, ESO: How you and your lover can give each other hours of extended sexual orgasm.) In case you haven't realized, the point of all this is to increase the amount of orgasmic pleasure you enjoy! It seems that having an orgasm without ejaculating increases the intensity of the orgasmic contractions. The method described by the Braeurs is this: Masturbate your penis without ejaculating for thirty minutes, then increase the strength and power of your hand movements. As you feel yourself beginning to ejaculate, stop masturbating and press into your perineum directly over your prostate gland. Squeeze your PC muscles and all your other sexual muscles as tightly as you can: so tightly, in fact, that you actually stop your semen spurting out of your penis. The Braeurs claim that if you are adept at this, you can retain most of your semen and that doing so will allow you to experience more intense sex-muscle contractions. After your contractions have ceased, begin to masturbate again. Your erection will be maintained and your arousal will return to a high level. You can repeat the above process of holding back your semen a number of times, until you finally decide to ejaculate. At this point, you need to relax as completely as possible, both in your body in general and your sexual muscles in particular. All of these "non-ejaculatory" orgasms (though you may lose a little semen each time) will be as strong or stronger than your first. 4 Stretching your orgasmApparently, after you've practiced all the muscle training described in #1 above for between three and four weeks, you can begin to "stretch" your orgasms. As you develop greater control and strength in your sexual muscles, you will gradually become able to discern the individual muscular contractions which contribute to your ejaculation. You may also find that the later contractions are the strongest, which is the reverse of the "normal" pattern where the strongest ejaculatory contractions come first. Begin again with thirty minutes of masturbatory stimulation. And once again, as you approach ejaculation, tighten your muscles to hold your semen inside your body, but this time continue stimulating your penis very slowly throughout your orgasm, "pushing" the sensation on and on, stretching your orgasm for as long as you can. 5 Using the prostate to your advantageThe prostate gland can add very significantly to a man's sexual pleasure when it's stimulated during sex. Stimulating it at the same time as a man's penis gives him a longer, deeper and more powerful orgasm. One of the reasons for this is that stimulating the prostate causes it to produce more semen, and the volume of semen a man ejaculates has a direct bearing on the intensity of his orgasm and the pleasure he experiences as he ejaculates. A man's partner can induce high levels of arousal in him by alternately stimulating his penis and his prostate: masturbating his penis (most likely with lube), and then massaging his prostate with a finger inserted through his anus into his rectum (definitely with lube!) If either of you don't like the idea of inserting a finger into the anal canal, an alternative is to press on the man's perineum on a spot directly above his prostate, with the pad of your thumb. 6 Learn to control the muscles of the scrotumSome authorities say that a man can't ejaculate unless his testicles are scrunched up close to his body. Now, I don't know if this is true or not - though most men will have observed that their scrotum does indeed contract as they get more aroused and approach ejaculation. I've also heard it said that one way of delaying ejaculation is to grab the testicles and hold them down, so that they can't elevate before ejaculation (and this I know is untrue - I've tried it, or rather, I asked my partner to try it, and it didn't work). Anyway, this all by way of saying that according to this theory, if you learn to control the degree of contraction and relaxation of your scrotum, you can delay or speed up your progress towards orgasm and ejaculation. |
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